Family law guide
Part of: Your First Family Court Hearing
What to wear to family court is simpler than most parents fear: there is no formal dress code, so clean, plain clothes you would wear to an important meeting are enough. HM Courts and Tribunals Service (HMCTS) asks only that your clothing is respectful and suitable for a formal public building. A few things can still go wrong at the door, such as a cap, a slogan or a belt that slows the security check. This guide covers family hearings in England and Wales, in person and by video. It goes with our guide to your first family court hearing.
No. HMCTS says there is no formal court dress code, but you are expected to dress appropriately for a court setting. Its guidance gives beachwear, fancy dress and clothing with offensive images or slogans as examples of what is not appropriate. If you arrive dressed inappropriately, court staff may refuse you entry.
Unsure about one item? HMCTS suggests you contact the court before you arrive, using the details on your hearing letter. Our local family court guides also describe many of the buildings themselves.
Wear clean, plain clothes that you already own and can sit in for several hours. Think of what you would wear to a parents’ evening or an important meeting, then leave out anything loud, revealing or awkward to take off.
| Item | A safe choice | Leave at home |
|---|---|---|
| Top | A shirt, blouse, plain top or jumper | Slogans or offensive images |
| Bottoms | Trousers, a skirt or a plain dress | Beachwear and fancy dress |
| Shoes | Comfortable shoes that slip off easily for security | Anything you cannot stand and walk in for a long day |
| Head | Nothing, unless worn for religious reasons, or a face covering | Caps, beanies and other hats |
| Extras | A Sunflower lanyard, if you have a hidden disability | Heavy belts, chains and pockets full of keys and coins |
None of this needs to be new. A suit is fine if you own one and feel comfortable in it. Still, nothing says you must wear one, and a neat jumper meets every rule HMCTS sets. Comfort matters more than people expect. The time on your letter is when the day’s cases start, and yours might not be first. So pick clothes you can wait in, with a layer you can take off.
HMCTS gives one set of dress guidance for every court and tribunal building it runs, whatever the type of case. What changes in a family case is who is in the room. General advice on what to wear to court often has a criminal trial in mind, with a public gallery watching. A family hearing is usually held in private instead, which means the general public has no right to be present (Family Procedure Rules, r.27.10).
Judges have relaxed their own dress too: they no longer wear wigs for civil and family hearings in open court, as the judiciary’s page on modern court dress explains. So when you decide what to wear to family court, dress for a serious conversation about your family. Aim to look like yourself on a good day, settled enough to listen and answer.
How you speak to the judge will matter more than your jacket. Our guide on how to address a magistrate or judge covers what to call them and when to stand.
Not a hat or cap, but a religious head covering or a face covering is fine. HMCTS says that, apart from a face covering, you cannot wear anything on your head in a court or tribunal building unless it is for religious reasons.
The judiciary’s own guidance backs this up. Its Equal Treatment Bench Book says Jewish, Muslim, Rastafarian, Sikh and other witnesses should not be asked to remove head coverings in court. It also tells judges to avoid unnecessary objections about dress.
A face veil can raise a separate question if you give evidence. In family and other non-criminal cases, a judge can ask a witness to remove a veil while giving evidence, if a fair trial requires it. The same guidance says the question should ideally come up at an earlier directions hearing. At the latest, it belongs at the start of the hearing. In a court building, a female member of staff can check your identity in private, without you removing the veil in the courtroom. If removal is needed, the judge may consider limiting who is in the room or using partial screens.
Wear clothes that come off and go back on quickly, such as slip-on shoes and a simple belt, and keep your pockets light. HMCTS says you may need to empty your pockets into a tray and take off your shoes, coat, gloves, hat or belt, then walk through an archway detector or be checked with a handheld scanner.
The law also sets a limit. A court security officer can search you, but cannot make you remove any clothing other than a coat, jacket, headgear, gloves or footwear (Courts Act 2003, s.52(2)). However, if you refuse a search, the officer can keep you out of the building (s.53(1)).
HMCTS asks you to arrive 30 minutes before the time on your letter, and no earlier. If you have a hidden disability, a Sunflower lanyard is worth wearing too. HMCTS staff recognise it as a sign that you may need extra help or more time, and every court building has them.
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For a video hearing, dress as if you were coming into the court building, because HMCTS asks you to. For a phone hearing nobody sees you, so clothes matter only for how ready you feel.
On video, the court needs to see your face and shoulders, so your top does most of the work. HMCTS also asks for something plain behind you, with the light in front of you so your face is not in shadow. Choose a quiet, private space, and tell anyone you live with that you must not be interrupted. Remember that you are on screen even while others speak, so keep your body language calm.
You can also ask the court before the hearing for arrangements that help you feel safe. For example, you can ask that another person in the case cannot see you. The court will try to arrange what you ask for, though it may not always be possible.
Not directly. In a case about children, the court’s paramount consideration is your child’s welfare (Children Act 1989, s.1(1)), and your outfit is not part of that test.

The judiciary is also wary of reading people from how they look. Its Equal Treatment Bench Book notes long-standing scepticism about judging credibility from appearance and demeanour in a stressful courtroom. Settling what to wear to family court early does take one worry off your list. When you are not tugging at a collar or shivering in a thin shirt, you can listen to the judge and answer clearly.
Preparation does far more for you than any outfit. A short position statement sets out what you want the court to know. If you are going without a lawyer, our guide for a litigant in person covers the rest of the day.
We assisted a father who spent the week before his first hearing about his son worrying that he could not afford a suit. We explained that the court sets no dress code and turned his attention to what the judge would ask him. He went in the trousers and jumper he wore to work, with his three main points about his son written on a single page. Every case turns on its own facts.
Lay out your clothes the night before and try them on sitting down, because you may spend hours in a waiting room chair. Then put the outfit out of your mind. Spend the evening on the two or three things you most need the judge to hear, and say them out loud once in a calm voice.
Hannah Overton, Complex Children Specialist & Client Support
Yes, if they are clean and neat, because HMCTS sets no formal dress code. Dark jeans with a plain top or jumper suit most family hearings. Ripped or faded jeans can look more casual than you intend, so choose trousers if you have them.
Whatever she would wear to an important meeting and can sit in comfortably for hours. Trousers or a skirt with a blouse or jumper works, as does a plain dress. Low shoes that slip off easily help at security. Avoid slogans, beachwear and any hat not worn for religious reasons.
A shirt or plain jumper with trousers is enough, and nothing requires a suit and tie. Shoes that slip off easily and a light belt make the security check quicker. Leave caps at home unless you wear a head covering for religious reasons.
Yes. HMCTS lists a face covering as something you can bring, and it is allowed even though other headwear must come off unless it is worn for religious reasons. A religious face veil raises a separate question if you give evidence, because a judge can ask you to remove it if a fair trial requires it.
Court staff may refuse you entry, according to HMCTS guidance. If you are unsure about something, contact the court before the day. If staff raise a problem at the door, removing a cap or covering a slogan with a jacket may be all it takes.
Parents who lie awake over what to wear to family court are usually worried about what happens once they sit down. What goes wrong is walking in without knowing what the hearing is for, or what the judge will ask you.
A free initial consultation is a conversation with a specialist, who gives you initial advice tailored to your circumstances. If you can, have your hearing letter to hand when you call.
Book a free initial consultation or call 0330 094 5880.
If you are in immediate danger, call 999.
Worried about facing the other person? Read about special measures in the family court, or what happens at an FHDRA hearing. You can also return to the first family court hearing guide.
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